Politicians realise that a “good” marriage is perceived as a sign of their ability to lead and they do their best to portray their marriage in a good light. I was particularly impressed by the pictures of Romney kissing his wife and President Obama hugging his wife after their second debate. I wonder how many voters would be moved by something as mundane as that.
A good marriage clearly raises a leader’s profile. I believe Prince William’s profile has being enhanced by his marriage to Kate Middleton and just think what would happen to people’s perception of Prince Harry when he gets married!
Marriage is one of the main areas where leadership qualities can be displayed and enhanced. Both parents have to show leadership to the children. The husband has to show leadership and the wife has to support him in as they both demonstrate leadership to each other.
Leadership is also one of the main sources of friction within marriages especially when the husband and wife are competing for leadership. The wife refuses to submit and the husband refuses to yield. Each person wants to have their way with no party ready to see reason.
What sort of leadership should we aspire to?
Jesus gave an example of good leadership in chapter 20 of St Mathew’s gospel.
25 But Jesus called them together and said, “You know that the rulers in this world lord it over their people, and officials flaunt their authority over those under them. 26 But among you it will be different. Whoever wants to be a leader among you must be your servant, 27 and whoever wants to be first among you must become your slave. 28 For even the Son of Man came not to be served but to serve others and to give his life as a ransom for many.” – Mathew 20: 25 – 28 (NLT)
He also demonstrated this when he washed the feet of his disciples in the 13th chapter of John’s gospel
12 When he had finished washing their feet, he put on his clothes and returned to his place. “Do you understand what I have done for you?” he asked them. 13 “You call me ‘Teacher’ and ‘Lord,’ and rightly so, for that is what I am. 14 Now that I, your Lord and Teacher, have washed your feet, you also should wash one another’s feet. 15 I have set you an example that you should do as I have done for you. 16 Very truly I tell you, no servant is greater than his master, nor is a messenger greater than the one who sent him. 17 Now that you know these things, you will be blessed if you do them. – John 13:12-16 (NLT)
If we see leadership from Jesus’ perspective, any issue we have about leadership within marriage will be easier to deal with. We need to follow Jesus example and imitate him in our marriage
Imitate God, therefore, in everything you do, because you are his dear children. Live a life filled with love, following the example of Christ – Ephesians 5: 1-2.
The question to ask yourself is – am I imitating Jesus in my role as a leader in my marriage. This is true whether you are a husband or a wife within the marriage.
Whatever you do, make sure your leadership is worthy of emulation.