“This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.” That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh..- Genesis 2: 24 New International Version
The scripture above is one that is often quoted at wedding ceremonies or whenever people talk about marriage. It gives a picture of God’s idea for marriage, that of a man leaving his immediate family and uniting with his wife to become one body.
“Becoming one body” however is a lifelong process that starts when the two are joined together. Yes, the officiating ministers at a wedding ceremony joins them together, but I believe that becoming one body is a process that continues throughout the life of the couple. The longer they are together, the more they become one body.
The process can be likened to that of joining two items together using an adhesive. This process is not instantaneous and often requires time for the adhesive to cure (Wikipedia). It requires both materials to be stuck to each other while the joint is being formed. It often requires both surfaces to be “clean and free from dirt”
In the same way, a husband and wife becoming one body once they are married requires time for them to truly become one body. Ideally, as you spend time together, you should begin to appreciate each other’s strong points and also learn to either overlook or help one another to overcome their weak points.
God’s idea is for us to be commited to our marriage and stick to each other. When you glue two surfaces together, you often apply some pressure to keep them together. In the same way, couples need determination to stick together in spite of pressures. Most marriage vows talk about being together in both good times and bad times.
Just as the surfaces being glued together need to be free from dirt, We also need to be “free from dirt”. Dirt prevents the surfaces from sticking together properly. In a marriage, Dirt can be bad habits, pride, anger, selfishness, immaturity – any thing that we do that stands in the way of our becoming one flesh with our spouse.
It is important that we try and identify these things and also prayerfully work to eliminate them in our journey to become one e.g. if you must always have things your own way, then this is some dirt that you need to get rid off.
Are you ready to get rid of the dirt and everything that is preventing you from becoming one flesh with your spouse? It requires a lot of time, self discipline, dedication and commitment. But work on it and you will reap the rewards.