One thing that happens with married couples is a tendency to take each other for granted and not appreciate one another.
It’s very easy for us to forget to thank God for our spouse, and to forget to thank and appreciate them for the little things they do. Yet we are always quick to point out to children the need to show proper manners by saying Thank You all the time. We always remember to thank and appreciate every one else – the postman, colleagues at work, the lady at the checkout etc.
An extreme condition is when couples don’t see the good things about each other and begin to focus on each other’s shortcomings only. This is dangerous and like every bad condition, it develops gradually.
There is a poster I saw years back with the words
“Thank you Jesus! Have you said it today?
This festive season and always, we are asking that you step up your appreciation of each other! Look beyond your spouse’s shortcomings and think about their great points – You may end up realising what a great husband/wife you have. You will be surprised that their good points far outweigh their bad points, just like the words of the hymn by Johnson Oatman Jr. “Count your blessings, name them one by one and it will surprise you what the Lord has done.”
Make a conscious effort to start showing appreciation for your spouse in new ways using whatever means or language that is available – buying flowers, saying it with words, telling them, sending a text message etc. Just do it and let them know you appreciate them! Find a reason for being thankful – thank them for being your wife/husband…just find an excuse to say “Thank you darling!”
As you find reasons to say thank you, you will also find reasons to be thankful to God for blessing you with your spouse and with every one and everything He has blessed you with.
Be thankful in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you who belong to Christ Jesus
– 1 Thessalonians 5:18 (New Living Translation)